Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self. Cyril Connolly (1903 - 1974)


Sometime later he fell in love

Whatever you are facing today. It's already in the bible.
How do you view people?

It takes me a very long time to trust people. I wait for the dating parade to be done with (there's where you put on your best self to sell how great you are) and then the real you will show up. Sometimes it takes quite a long time and by then, the person have moved on from me, which explains why I only have one best friend.

But your real self will show up. I believe in long dating period to get to know someone you will be wanting to spend your life with because believe it or not, the real person will show up and you'll have to decide seriously if you do want to spend the rest of your life with that person. I should have followed this advice. But my husband character, while it's flawed, I can still see it's beauty and I'm glad that I'm married to him. I feel I can trust him.

So I take a deep look at the person's character and I'm patient enough to wait for the character to show up.
What about you?


Judges 16:4 – Some time later, he fell in love
Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. – Judges 16:4

Samson was a man who had a problem with women. As we read the account of Samson we see that he was using all of the wrong things to determine whom he wanted to be with. Like Samson, we can be enchanted with outward appearances and miss people around us who bring many amazing traits that would fulfill our lives. Going for outward beauty instead of inward beauty was Samson’s downfall. What about us? What are we looking for in that special someone?

Today’s commentary by:
Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor,

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About the author: Owner of JamericanSpice. Sharing my journey in the present, from the past or thoughts for my future. Mom of two who loves to travel and read and decipher people.
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  1. So true. Some people are really good at hiding their true character but if we wait long enough their true character shows up.
    This such a meaningful post for a Valentine's day! Thank you for sharing! And have a great valentine's day!

  2. I think a lot of people put forward what they think people want to see at first. The truth does come out later.

  3. Colette . . . love this post!

    I'd rather have few friends that I trust than many friends who will stab me in the back the first chance they get. Like you, I have a difficult time trusting people.

    Long dating period is great advice. I waited eight years before becoming seriously involved in a relationship.

    I met him online and we spent a long period of time getting to know each other before meeting. It was exactly the way I wanted it to be and I happened to find that person who felt the same way. No way was I going to go through the dating thing in person . . .

    You are so right . . . with time, there is nowhere for the real person to hide . . . having patience is worth it.

    Thanks for the thought provoking post . . . Gina

  4. Unfortunately, I am a big sucker for beauty as well. It's hard to say where the line is drawn, but I haven't learned yet.


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