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11/13/11

How Do You Give Comfort To Someone?

There are times when I do have a heavy heart and no amount of trying to get me to laugh is going to shake it. I realize I just have to give myself time to grieve and let it process through me bit by bit until it's gone. 


Do you allow yourself to grieve? 
Do you allow your best friends or family to grieve?


Sometimes quick answers are the worse thing to offer when people are going through a hard time.

In well meaning attempts to lift someone’s spirits, we move too fast. It would seem ridiculous to visit someone who has just experienced major surgery and try to pull them out of the hospital bed to get them to exercise.

In the same way, sometimes people need the space to grieve for a while. To try to bypass a heavy heart can add more pain to the process. Sometimes the best thing that we can do is to weep when they weep, or just sit with them in silence. The comfort comes not in our cheerful songs, but our presence.

Today’s commentary by:
Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.org



Like one who takes away a garment on a cold day, or like vinegar poured on soda, is one who sings songs to a heavy heart. – Proverbs 25:20


About the author: Owner of JamericanSpice. Sharing my journey in the present, from the past or thoughts for my future. Mom of two who loves to travel and read and decipher people.
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1 comment :

  1. Grieving is a natural process that all living things must go through to purge their body of negative emotion-It's not a bad thing by any means.

    I'm a true believer in just being there for someone when they need a 'shoulder to cry on.' If they want encouraging words, I try to give it. If they just want to be held, I can do that, too.

    So yes, I do grieve (when I let go of my stubbornness) and I allow other people to grieve.

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