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Thursday, March 1, 2012

When Will You Die?

A friend found it hard to come to grips with a crash that killed some people. She said, she cannot wrap her head around the fact that this is something God would want.  She has questions. I believe it's perfectly fine for her to have questions.

I tell people all the time to have questions and ask them. There is no reason to believe blindly. You must know what you believe and why.

I told her that I don't think God wanted death on anyone, but it is inevitable that we will die. Just a matter of when and how. The how is what causes the most grief. Some people get a long time to say good bye. Others are taken away in terrible circumstances.
And while death of this body is inevitable. Not all of us will die and God has made provisions for life eternal.

I believe firmly that if it's not your time to die, you will NOT die no matter what the disaster.  And I was surprise to find this in my inbox this morning as this is what we were discussing.

What are your thoughts on death? 
2. Do you think you can prepare for it?

Job 14:5 – A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed.

Job brings to our attention that even though we may act like we have a lot of time to live, much of that is blind optimism.
For many people it takes the death of a loved one to make us face that reality. Yet it is when we know that we will die someday that we can truly live, for death reminds us to live well while we are on this earth. You can’t change the time that you will die, but you can change the way that you live today.
Today’s commentary by Dave Whitehead, Senior Pastor, GraceNYC.org 


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13 comments:

  1. I know that losing my death gave me a very real wake-up call on appreciating life while we have it.

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  2. Just 3 weeks ago my 9 year old was hit by a car as you know and at that moment everything that was suppose to go right went just right....doctors, paramedics and police on scene told me that he should not be alive.It was not his time....scientifically his survival doesn't make sense, but spiritually it makes lot of sense to me. Ever since that day I have brand new and stronger appreciation for my life and for my children.

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  3. I lost my Dad last July on the 2nd and it still hurts..the other day I went into Walgreens to get some candy for the boys and saw a box of Boston baked beans and just had a meltdown..you see my Daddy loved those kind of candy...in fact last June for Fathers Day I sent him seven bags of them..and now, I just can't believe he's gone. I miss him terribly and wished I would of been a better daughter like writing more or sending gifts, I always tried to send pictures of the boys. Now I'm just trying to be grateful for what I have.

    Stopping by from Pitch it to me.

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  4. I'm at the age where it's time to prepare. I'm down sizing my home for one. I'm a bit of a horder when it comes to memories. I'm talking saving silly things because of the memories mom's pillow for example. I don't want my children to have to go through this mess. There's certain things that I know the children want and I have put their names on the back it so theirs no arguments. I want the transition to go smoothly & have written each of them a letter for closure. Something personal. Over the years I have updated it from time to time. I also know I'll always be with them in heart & watching over them. When I die I know it'll go smoothly. Will, living will, and their letters are already in it's place. Yes, I'll be ready to go when the time comes. For now we make good memories for them as they will with theirs.

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  5. Great question! Being a former nurse, I dealt with death on many occasions. In September, My Mom passed away in my arms, unfortunately it was not a peaceful transition, quite the opposite. For me, after witnessing such a horrible death, I think what frightens me the most about death is the manner and cause at the end. As far as preparing, have God in your life every second and have your affairs in order (no matter what your age) so your loved ones aren't left, not only with grief but legal and financial decisions and/or problems.

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  6. Our lifespan is all in God's plan - when it's your time, it's your time. I just hope and pray that when it's my time, God allows it to be quick and painless. I'm allergic to pain. ;) The hubby and I really need to make a will, though, that's something we've been putting off - and since you just never know when it's your time, we should at least have that done so the kids are taken care of.


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  7. Death happens. When I lost my parents, I gained a new outlook on death.


    Have a great weekend!
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  8. Financially we are prepared... mentally or emotionally NO WAY!!

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  9. Wow...right now, I can say that I am ready to die. I think about it often, what would happen to my family if I go, did I do enough to help them if I wasn't around?
    See Colette, the reason why I am ready, is because I have seen and experience the life that caused a lot of grief unto others. And it is painful...I don't ever wish to live if it burdens someone else. If I can't bring happiness to my love ones, then I don't want to be the black cloud for them everyday.

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  10. I don't want to know when I will die. God knows. When he's ready for me, it will happen. It only makes me sad that I will leave my children and husband behind if I die first. But I'm not afraid.

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  11. I'm not the biggest RELIGIOUS person, but I am SPIRITUAL and I do believe in reincarnation and Summerland (aka Heaven to other people).

    If you've learned all that you are meant to learn in a lifetime, then you are transported to another to learn more lessons or lessons that you didn't quite learn in a past life.

    I believe in kindred souls, so nobody is every truly alone.

    Yes, death is inevitable, but like you said, it's only death of the flesh, not of the soul.

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  12. I don't think I'm afraid of death, and try to be prepared for it by not purposely committing sins. I say a quiet prayer every morning.

    Like you, I have the same thought about when it's your time to go, you have to go no matter what and no matter where!

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  13. I was just talking about this with my Dad yesterday. He was sick recently and thought he was going to die. It gave him a new lease on life.

    For me, I try not to think about it but I can't help but wonder what I'll miss in my kids life when I'm gone.

    Kailani
    An Island Life

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I appreciate your thoughts - Colette

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