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10/11/12

Sleeping Together - Aloha!

As a couple, would you want to have your own bedroom and sleep separate from your spouse?

Of course you can always meet up and have sex as you please, and cuddle and even fall asleep in the same bed if you want.

I know a few couples do this for whatever reason and they still have very happy and healthy relationships.
I see nothing wrong with it and would love if I had my own room.

That's how it was done many years ago when women had their own adjoining room to their husband, so why is it frowned upon in today's society?


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19 comments :

  1. I think a couple should do what works for them and if they have the space then great. I tease my husband that he is gonna have to go in the guest room, he snores but he says he likes to be next to me, ah, isn't that sweet. Anyway, not sure why it is frowned upon? Couples need to do what works best for them :)
    Love your new look!!

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    1. I agree and yes that is really sweet.

      Thank you Lucy. I'm learning and trying on my own with it. I don't have the $$ to pay someone, so I learn :)

      Now if I could get the header right, dance :)

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  2. Hi! So you changed the colors and template! It looks great.
    I would not be one of those that like to sleep separately from my spouse. Unless there is some reason why I need to. He is sick, or I am sick. I can't sleep with him around...etc. I didn't know society in general frowned upon this type of arrangement. People I know that have frowned on it, because the arrangement came with troubled marriages, and sleeping separately would not help the bond. Otherwise, if two people are still in love but they just can't sleep together for what ever reason, then it is a preference and who's to cast the first stone?

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    1. You make valid points.

      You like it? Thanks. I'm trying on my own. I don't have the $$ to pay anyone so I figured that I'd learn.
      But the tweaking is slow. I just need to get my header how I want it and then move on to other tweakings :)

      Thanks for visiting honey.

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  3. Hi J.C. Thank you for peeking in on my Alpha "U" post. My BIL and his wife have separate bedrooms that they don't always use but one.
    Their problem is that each snores soooo badly that it wakes the other up.

    We were in Louisiana Saturday for Mrs. Jim's family reunion. OVer a hundred plus about 60 kids came. She has a large family, they came from as far as Mississippi and Tennessee and of course us from Texas.

    We had it in Harold Miles Park in Alexandria. Mrs. Jim grew up there. It was a pretty day and real cool. Sweater weather in the morning but we didn't bring sweaters.
    ..
    I like your new layout. It is similar to mine except I am still using Old Blogger and had to make it nice and wide with the HTML.
    ..

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    1. Glad y'all had a wonderful time!
      And thank you. I'm still tweaking :)

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  4. We end up sleeping in separate rooms about 50% of the time when the hubby's snoring gets to be too much for me when I really need to sleep. Sometimes he's the one who ends up moving to another room when I've kicked and elbowed him too much...heh!

    Love the new background, Callie! :)


    Celebrating Birthdays

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  5. We sleep in separate rooms from time to time (hubbys work schedule is so weird...)LOVE the new look.

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    1. Thank you Noelle.

      And it's the same with our schedules. Just make more sense for us.

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  6. I'd miss hubby if we didn't sleep together. I have been sick before and slept in another room and he'll come looking for me. :)

    Our trouble is that our bed oftentimes ends up with 3 people in it, and that person number 3 is getting too big to be there (he hogs all of the room!).

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    1. That's how my kids sleep when they were little and slept with me. all sorts of ways and I was always falling off the bed! Trying to get them not to fall off the bed! lol

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  7. I love to sleep by myself and prefer it. My husband is an extremely light sleeper so the slightest noise or me rolling over in the bed will wake him so for us, sleeping separate works best but like you say, we have the option to do what we please when we please.

    Have a great weekend!

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  8. I think it's a matter of preference but ... I prefer sleeping snuggled up next to my husband. Even when traveling, if the hotel room has two beds, we sleep in the same bed and through our luggage and what not on the spare bed. ;)

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  9. Wow..your blog is totally transformed, and I thought I was on a wrong one.

    For many years of my marriage life, we slept apart for many reasons such as he snored too loud, I was nursing, and a light sleeper.

    I believe it's up to the couple to work out what is best for them! There are other ways to bond!

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  10. Oh my husband would not hear of sleeping separately unless one of us is really sick or when I had back surgery!

    However, if it works for others then I guess it is ok with me.

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  11. I think if my husband was one of those compulsive snorers then he would have to have his own bedroom! My husband can't sleep without me so I guess I'm stuck :-) We know many couples that do have separate bedrooms though!~

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  12. I love sleeping with my husband, through the night. That said, we do not sleep together most nights as he works third shift. I cannot say enough about how much I appreciate this because my sleep needs have changed as I have aged. I think I would not have appreciated the separation early in our marriage or when the kids were younger but I definitely like it now. As for sex, when you have teenagers, sex happens whenever you can so sleeping together is not necessary. I tell you what really works is having two separate bathrooms. LOL!

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