Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self. Cyril Connolly (1903 - 1974)


Stress And Your Support System - Aloha TQT Sillies

It's amazing how alone you can feel when going through a crisis. It is very true that no one else can bear our burdens. I understand this even more after having children.

I also notice the strong need to respond in kind, but if I can't respond in love, I will remain silent. Sometimes my silence is taken as held grudges, which is sad, but for me, it's best to be silent until I can calm myself inside or until God gives me a new path or truth that I can then begin to move towards.
I haven't come to this discipline lightly. I'm usually a fiery one when pressed.

It makes me wonder if I'm sick because of the stress and mind/heart battles going on inside me. Seems I've been fighting this head cold for months now. Seems my own body is beginning to adjust to the uncomfortable sickness that rarely allows me to breathe through my nostrils.

The 27th can't come fast enough.
I have a feeling there is more to me being sick, but how can I know if I don't have that doctor.

It would be nice to be able to get away, hang out with a girlfriend or just go to a family's home for dinner etc. I understand now too, that while we can do it mostly alone, we were never made for it.

I'm still pushing through. When you have children, there is no sick mommy. You are just a mommy.

What is one thing you do that helps you deal with stress? 
Do you have a support system (girlfriends, family member etc) to lean on during these times?
And we are doing the Sillies of course :)
Coffee intake
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IRS decides to audit Grandpa, and summons him to the IRS office. The IRS auditor was not surprised when Grandpa showed up with his attorney.
The auditor said, 'Well, sir, you have an extravagant lifestyle and no full-time employment, which you explain by saying that you win money gambling.
I'm not sure the IRS finds ...that believable.'
I'm a great gambler, and I can prove it,' says
Grandpa. 'How about a demonstration?'
The auditor thinks for a moment and said, 'Okay. Go ahead.'
Grandpa says, 'I'll bet you a thousand dollars that I can bite my own eye.'
The auditor thinks a moment and says, 'It's a bet.'
Grandpa removes his glass eye and bites it.
The auditor's jaw drops.
Grandpa says, 'Now, I'll bet you two thousand dollars that I can bite my other eye.'
Now the auditor can tell Grandpa isn't blind, so he takes the bet.
Grandpa removes his dentures and bites his good eye.
The stunned auditor now realizes he has wagered and lost three grand, with Grandpa's attorney as a witness. He starts to get nervous.
'Want to go double or nothing?' Grandpa asks 'I'll bet you six thousand dollars that I can stand on one side of your desk, and pee into that wastebasket on the other side, and never get a drop anywhere in between.'
The auditor, twice burned, is cautious now, but he looks carefully and decides there's no way this old guy could possibly manage that stunt, so he agrees again.
Grandpa stands beside the desk and unzips his pants, but although he strains mightily, he can't make the stream reach the wastebasket on the other side, so he pretty much urinates all over the auditor's desk.
The auditor leaps with joy, realizing that he has just turned a major loss into a huge win.
But Grandpa's attorney moans and puts his head in his hands.
'Are you okay?' the auditor asks.
'Not really,' says the attorney. 'This morning, when Grandpa told me he'd been summoned for an audit, he bet me twenty-five thousand dollars that he could come in here and pee all over your desk and you'd be happy about it.'

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  • Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
  • Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.
  • Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.
  • Laughter protects the heart. Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

Colette is a busy mom of 2 kids focusing solely on being a mom. She hails from the Caribbean and now balances the full life of being a SAHM and dabbling in odd jobs to help around the home. She enjoys sharing her memories, hopes, food, travel, entertainment, and product experiences on her blog. Please read my disclosure 
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  1. Colette, we recently purchased a family membership at the YMCA. It has helped me release some stress and get healthy with my family. Working on my fitness level has given me a goal and improved my personal satisfaction. I am not trying to be a dream girl, just a better me.


  2. Love the poster quote-haha. This was a fun post!

  3. Everyone handles stress differently, I hold it in too sometimes. I hope you can work it out and get some relaxation in!

  4. I am a big giant ball of stress constantly. I have anxiety disorder, so it's always there. I deal with it by working. To relax, I read or watch TV.

  5. When I'm stressed I like to take a hot bath with a good book and some wine ;)

  6. I like a hot bath with a good book and some wine!

  7. Stress is horrible. It makes you ill both inside and out. You're constantly on edge. I'm constantly baking! That's my release. I loved your audit joke!

  8. I find I hold it in which is so not healthy! I try to do things that relax me for a few minutes a day. I have a girlfriend that I am extremely comfortable with and can tell her anything and everything and not be judged so she is my support when I really need it!

  9. I agree that when you're going through a hard time, dealing with stress, you truly feel alone. It's been my experience that the best thing for me to do is try to get some alone time.Take a bubble bath, drink a glass of wine, enjoy a piece of chocolate, flip through magazines, surf the internet, because when I share my feelings with others, they don't tend to understand just what I'm going through and they push and push and I become defensive. I don't mean to but it happens. And so, I find that I just need a little bit of space, some "Me" time and then when I'm ready I will slowly open up and be the wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend that I need to be. Big hugs!

    1. I'm Dee Mauser by the way. My Google account has me listed as Bella So Savvy.

    2. Thank you Dee.

      I am trying to just breathe, sometimes that's all you can do. I did get me chocolates :)

      It will pass. It usually does right ?


  10. Thanks for the laughs with that joke.
    For me the best way to relieve stress is a hike or walk in the woods or a park. It seems to work every time.
    My best support system is my hubby.

  11. SO counts the days I am sick. This Monday will be a full two weeks. The saddest part is as I get older, I can no longer bounce back that easily. When it first comes on, it wiped me out for a couple of days, laying around in bed. Wow...I have to say, it has been quite an adjustment to getting older.
    I hope you will get over your head cold well as the burden you're referring to. I remembered not too long ago when I just have the worst "situation" to deal with. To me, for it to be over is all I could think of. I couldn't sleep, couldn't think straight without the "situation" swirling around in my head. How can I fix it?
    I pray your stress/ burden passes soon for you. The toughest part is to remember it is temporary and we pray it is temporary.
    Have a good weekend, warmest wishes.

  12. Wow, sorry, I totally skipped the questions and was too busy rattling on.
    What is one thing you do that helps you deal with stress? I work! I like working my-ass-off, so that I don't think about it.
    Do you have a support system (girlfriends, family member etc) to lean on during these times? No. Sometimes, I prefer not to tell anyone close...isn't that weird? I think that when I do, they asked too many questions, and stressed me out in other ways. LOL.

  13. Colette, I am so fortunate to have fantastic friends that I can confide anything in and they are so supportive. They love me no matter what. I love to write or work on crafts, and unfortunately shop to relieve stress too. I limit myself to thrift stores however and the kids have given me a list of things they need so I don't feel bad to go bargain hunting and I lap or their appreciation like a cat laps milk. :-)

    Hugs and prayers are being sent your way. You can never get too many.

  14. Hi Colette ~~ You joke was nice. I had heard it before but couln't remember how it went or remember the punch line. :) LOL

    One evening Mrs. Jim and I were sitting in the kitchen at the table and we heard this terrible crash. Immediately I thought of a rock or brick being thrown through the window. I could even see a rope on the brick pulling along a note of some kind. We were scared.

    I tip toed into the dining room to look at the glass on the floor or out the window if no brick. I was scared, really scared. Then I was relieved to see that our big picture that hangs in the hall had crashed to the floor. Awhg.

    What is one thing you do that helps you deal with stress? I twirl my thumb around and around or wag it rapidly side to side. If I am with people I have a little noise that I make with my thumb .against my teeth.

    Do you have a support system (girlfriends, family member etc) to lean on during these times? My thumb is first. Then mostly myself, generally I don't share.
    Jim's Thursday Two Questions

  15. I used to have a wonderful support system, and I still do but they're long distance. The people where we are now are all my husband's people. I have no idea if we're staying up north or not, so I don't actively go out and seek people...silly, I know.

    I miss my friends being close by, sometimes way more than others.

    Your DR. appt is taking so long, I wish they'd bump you up to a closer date. I hope they find something to get you back to 100%. Being sick can make stress worse, and vice versa.

    Big hugs.

  16. You and me are a lot alike when it comes to being silent; I'd be REAL fiery if not for my silence when I'm depressed or upset. That can be both good or it can be bad because if you keep it in for too long, it DOES effect your immune system and you're more susceptible to catching things.

    I do quite have a wonderful support system, mostly in my mother and my boyfriend. Bless them both for dealing with my ever constant overly emotional moody self is all I have to say o.O

    You know I'm here for you dear sister! If you need to talk or anything, I'm only an email or phone call away.

  17. Stress does take a toll on one's health Colette. I try to reduce it with Yoga, meditation and writing. I hope you feel hale and hearty soon. Have a good weekend.

  18. Stress is a total bummer, but what I do is watch an old movie. I like old movies and I usually let me self go in them. This week is a good week for old movies because it's Oscar week. There's been quite a few of them on. I watched South Pacific today! Chill baby! Things will get better.

  19. I enjoyed the joke! Laughter helps me when I am stressed, I watch comedy. Do I have a support system? Yes, my husband as far as friends, I am careful what I share but I do have a friend and I am blessed to have my mother and sister.
    I hope you start feeling well and I hope your stress lightens soon :)


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