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Feeling Guilty?

I'm always guilty of something or everything. Seems I live in guilt and it keeps me in line. Seriously that is no way to live and I'm trying to shake it. I keep wondering if it's a psychological thing from childhood.

I'm a good mother. (There, I said it with some doubt) I am a very good mother! But yet I pile on the guilt of how I can be better, what I"m not doing right or should be doing and blah blah blah blah blah. Sometimes I simply tell myself to SHUT UP! Because I can't take one more hit.

I get to stay home with my children. What glory! Yet I feel vulnerable. I should be working. I do not like being dependent on anyone (<<---definitely childhood psyche). I should be contributing more financially. I need a career. My life is getting away from me and then I"ll be old and out...and miserable.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve myself, but the things I aspire to be, shouldn't diminish the person I am.

I'm learning to embrace my changes, my learning, my little life.

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As Lysa says: Sometimes I feel guiltier for what I'm not than thankful for what I am.

BUT we can cut the threads of guilt with the edge of grace.

If I'm going to have any peace, I will have to allow God's grace to be my buffer always and not just sometimes when it feels okay.

Today I will begin by celebrating my gifts. Each little one.

And as Psalm 139: 13 says: I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

What is one gift you have that you can celebrate?
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Colette is a busy mom of 2 kids focusing solely on being a mom. She hails from the Caribbean and now balances the full life of being a SAHM and dabbling in odd jobs to help around the home. She enjoys sharing her memories, hopes, food, travel, entertainment, and product experiences on her blog. Please read my disclosure 
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  1. I think many of us struggle with that feeling of guilt. I hope you start feeling less guilty and I do think it is normal to always strive to do better, there is a difference between guilt and striving for doing a better job, Good Luck with that balance, not an easy task :)

    1. Thank you Lucy.
      Definitely not an easy task!

  2. Callie, heads up girl! SHUT UP is right! Time for you to stand up, and say I'M SOMEBODY, and I don't care who knows it. Girl, from what I've read you're an excellent mother, and a great wife... the problem is you need to find the woman in you. The individual. She lives too ya know! What's past is past. You can't change it, so do make your present and future miserable. Be happy! Look at all you have to be thankful for. Two beautiful children, and a handsome husband that supports the family, and you have the gift of staying home to be that perfect wife and mother, and if you work and make extra... well that's what it is EXTRA! Now, if you want to branch out now that the kids are growing up and you have no career do you want a big career or would you like just to work part time some where while the kids are in school? Everybody does that. Think about it Callie you're a good girl stop making yourself miserable. There's enough pain & suffering on in the world that we don't need to do it to ourselves. AMEN God loves you baby girl & me too! You're duh best!!!

  3. I think we all feel that way, especially us mothers. I try to remember all the good things I AM doing...and there are many. This usually makes the guilty feelings lessen a bit.


    1. That is a great idea Jennifer.
      Thank you. *HUGS*

  4. you are a great mother, wife and friend...
    you do need to find the strength within... if anything to let your kids see you as the strong woman you are :)

    1. Thank you Noelle.
      I'm getting there.


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