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Thursday, April 11, 2013

Compliments Waters The Soul

I sometimes compliment my kids in various ways. I want them to appreciate and value themselves as they grow up. I would not want them to lack any good thing, especially emotionally, as we all know they can get influenced by the wrong things in society.

For me, as a child I did not hear compliments towards me. So it's not part of my life in a sense. However, you can't help not wanting to have genuine compliments given to you as a person.
Sometimes a compliment can lift you so high for so long.

A few days ago, I went to soccer practice with my son. As the kids and I were exiting our car and grabbing our balls and bags etc, a grandmother said to me: 'Wow, you look so young! I thought you were the kids sister and then the little one just called you mom! You just look so young!"

I smiled and told her thank you.

It was such a blessing. It's like watering a plant that was starving for moisture.

Yesterday I took my kids to have some fun at the kart ranch. My son is old enough (tall enough on the height palate) to ride on his own, but I have to ride with my daughter.
We handed in our tickets and was about to go in and the man ask me my age. I was flustered for a bit before replying.
He then said, no worries I just have to ensure you are the right age to drive the child because you do look very young and it's part of my job to make sure you are old enough.
Hahahahahaha.
We laughed about it and I said oh okay. Thank you.

It was weird, but again, it was wonderful.
I do not mind getting old or being my age. It's a blessing to have life.

But it's such a wonderful thing to have nice compliments that lifts you up and just put a smile on your heart. Especially if you are like me, who just don't want to look in the mirror because you can't see beauty.

I rarely get them, but I try to give them as much as I can because I know the value of a genuine compliment.

Of course you might not see these as compliments, but hey, I'm grabbing them as mine :)

Do you get genuine compliments from your loved ones? (because you know we value these most)
As a child, were you given compliments from your parents and elders?
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Colette is a busy mom of 2 kids focusing solely on being a mom. She hails from the Caribbean and now balances the full life of being a SAHM and dabbling in odd jobs to help around the home. She enjoys sharing her memories, hopes, food, travel, entertainment, and product experiences on her blog. Please read my disclosure 
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24 comments:

  1. Compliments don't exit in my family! I am glad those compliments putting a smile on your face, and wouldn't you love to bottle them? I would!

    I do try to remember to compliment on my children's accomplishments or whatever crosses my mind! Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves at least once!

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    1. I know! It would be great to bottle them because we forget and focus more on the negative that someone says about us.

      I'm glad you are doing this Icy!

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  2. God made you absolutely beautiful, inside and out! And now your beauty has been passed on to your children too, which is a marvelous thing. :)

    People always think my husband is younger than he is, and he loves that. They never think that about me, grrr. ;)

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    1. Thank you Rosey. *HUG*
      I am trying with the children. Seems we are sharpening each other :)

      And men, they seems to get away with it all eh.

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  3. Do you get genuine compliments from your loved ones? As a child, were you given compliments from your parents and elders?
    My love ones include mama and dada? They don't usually compliment - it is hard to come by. My SO though is great with compliments about me. Always calling me gorgeous or beautiful, but I think by now it is just a "name." LOL Sometimes I will have to subtly ask for it. For example: how was the pasta?
    Thanks for linking with T2T. Have a great weekend.

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    1. It is good that your hubby does it. It's special and just where you need it from.

      You make me smile about nudging for it in regard so to the dinner :)

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  4. Colette, you are beautiful inside and out and your inner beauty keeps you looking young. I was starving for compliments when growing up and tried to excel at any and everything hoping something would cause that outpouring. (he he) My mother was encouraging, father was super critical and abusive physically, mentally, emotionally and verbally. Hubby is annoyed when I ask him if he likes something etc. He calls me "needy" never saying anything nice so I do try to lavish encouragement and praise on my family and friends but only when it is genuine. I do not want to mislead them. I believe false compliments can be just as harmful as none at all.

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    1. Thank you Judy and I agree wholeheartedly about false compliments. I refuse to give such.

      *HUGS*
      Sometimes our loved ones (father , spouse etc) are in their path and need help to see wider and what matters most.

      A big reason I'm trying to push my all on God who doesn't disappoints.

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  5. you are a beautiful person... inside and out.. and all who meet you know that...
    the best thing is when broxton tells me i am beautiful. means more to me than anyone will ever know...

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    1. And it's true and pure!
      Thank you Noelle

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  6. i have no child hood memories of compliments so I dont even notice them i always assume its flattery. it is so terrible. I am learning to give my children compliments however it is not in my nature. Thank God for grace to try again each day.

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    1. Amazing isn't it.
      So glad for grace.
      Keep at it darling!

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  7. My husband is always good with compliments and I try to do the same.

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  8. I often didn't get compliments growing up. Nor now as a mom. It is hard. Because it really is like a withering plant that is just starved for positive attention. It always feels so amazing when someone notices something I've done or how I look and compliment me. I could be considered a bit excessive when giving compliments to my kids. I just don't want them ever feeling like I did as a kid. I want them to be well watered and thrive.

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    1. Very much understandable Amber. I give them too because I just do not want them to feel as I do.
      I want them to feel appreciated and valued.

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  9. I love comments like that about how young I look, I get them all the time. A few years ago it annoyed me, but now as I age, the more the merrier.

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    1. Ahh yes I do agree!
      Thank you Tammi

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  10. I love getting compliments, they make my day and yes it does water your soul. I use to get them a lot. My hubby tells me I have a young face, I'll take whatever I can get! :)

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    1. The hubs hold sway and those are good ones to have in the marriage.

      Thank YOU :)

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  11. Compliments can really make someones day. It never hurts to share one and I know I love hearing them too. great post!

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  12. Compliments are nice and those unexpected out of the blue from someone you don't know are a little more special, they tend seem a little more genuine. Any, yep enjoy them :) Oh, Loved the funnies, you know how much I love a good giggle. Lucy from Lucy's Reality

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    1. That I agree with Lucy. Everyone else might seem like kiss up :) But of course they too could be genuine :D

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I appreciate your thoughts - Colette

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