Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self. Cyril Connolly (1903 - 1974)


Bond Of Love With Amy Suzanne

Bond Of Love With Amy Suzanne

One of the biggest challenges I face when I write is NOISE. Yup, that’s right, lots and lots of noise. I need silence to write. With kids laughing or yelling, dogs and cats barking or meowing, and the phone constantly ringing, it’s rarely quiet in our home. Therefore, my creative window for expressing myself through the written word is limited. Very limited. In fact, it’s on a stopwatch pretty much. I have my daily ritual down to a science and my writing window is the only time when I am stingy with my time.

I am the mother of four extremely active daughters, one of which is my stepdaughter, and the other three by birth. My stepdaughter has already flown the coop. Kaylee is off exploring the world around her, learning life lessons, both the easy and hard. I worry, but that’s a mom for you. You don’t have to squeeze them out of your who-ha to be given a badge to love and worry. However, with these other three beautiful creatures, who are all still here at home with us (Maura, Abigail, and Mia) they have an uncanny way of getting on my last nerve when I am trying to write. “MOM…I need the stapler! MOM, I need $10. MOM, she won’t get out of my closet!” I say this with the MOST loving tone, mind you. I love all of our girls, with all my heart, but sometimes I want to run away to a quiet spot and hide. Blanket over my head, headlamp securely attached, and laptop illuminated. “Go away, please! Just give me FIVE minutes! That’s all I want! Five minutes. Well, maybe an hour actually.”

So, since it is challenging to find “quiet time” in this humble abode, I have to make sure to utilize ALL of my available minutes wisely. That means I do EVERYTHING I need to for the girls, my husband, our house, and our animals, and then I write! (You see I am a type A personality, so I like to have their hair pretty, their clothes matching, the house cleaned, and dinner ready when my husband comes home from a long day at the firm, even if no one demands these things from me). For me, I can’t write until I know in my mind that I have earned my “mom & wife star” for the day. This moment, when all my “so-called, self-inflicted chores” are done, is when the feeling of pure, unabated joy fills me. Just like a root beer float on overflow, I love the feeling I get in my heart when it’s time to finally write. It usually comes Monday through Friday, between the hours of 11:00 AM and 2:00PM. That’s it; then it’s gone in a poof! Otherwise I have to write late at night when everyone is fast asleep.

With my coffee half-cold on my school-sized, old-fashioned desk, no longer looking very alluring beside my laptop with the coffee creamer floating somewhat separated on the top, my fingers fine their melody and begin to tap, tap, tap away. The words usually come easy, with the story scratching at my brain, waiting anxiously to be released for another go-around. It’s the time I wait for all day. It’s as blissful as falling asleep on a sandy beach in Hawaii. It transports me back to when I was only a child, hunched over my diary, with only my words and my thoughts.

Writing in silence, with my animals quietly snoozing at my feet, is MY creative time, to just be me. To just be AMY. Nothing more. Nothing less. It is my time of peacefulness. This is when my body finally relaxes, usually long enough to feel the endorphins doing a little happy-dance upstairs in my brain before I begin my three pick-ups, from three different schools. We’ve got one in elementary, one in junior high, and one in high school. Let me say now…do not ever enter a high school parking lot without very aware eyes and ears. Teenagers drive horrible!

This, my friends and fellow readers, is what I call my daily ritual. It’s hectic, demanding, stressful, fun, and full of joy, but it’s mine. Welcome to my crazy life. It’s non-stop busy, but because I love to write, I make the time. You should make the time for something you love in your life too. Moms are magical creatures that make miracles happen for everyone around us, but we deserve a little something for ourselves too.

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Meet the Author:

This is Amy’s second published work, the first being a memoir written exclusively for her children. As a former second grade teacher, and long time professional photographer, she has been writing and filling journals since she was young enough to hold a pencil and form words.

Although writing brings her to a place of solace and joy, her most ambitious and fulfilling job in life thus far has been being a mother. Married for nearly two decades now, she and her husband share four daughters, who fill their lives with amusement, love, and drama daily. It is her lifelong goal to preserve her family’s history through the written word, pictures, and the human touch of love. 

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  1. I hear ya on having silence to write! I am the same way..2 kids, a cat, and a dog. It very loud in my house as well! New GFC follower!

    1. Thank you Valerie for sharing and I'm coming over to visit and return the follow :)

  2. I have the same dilemma at home, trying to earn a living with the kids running around wanting things, and if hubby's home forget it. lol :) Happy to meet you here at Jamerican Spice!

    1. Thank you for Sharing with us Rosey :)
      The kids and hubs and animals do take time.

  3. Sounds like your family is very lucky that you are type A! I don't know what type A means anymore, it seemed that all the women I know sounds like you, so are they all type A? Most probably all are super women. Cheers!

    1. Haha you should see them go!

      Thanks for visiting Amanda and sharing.


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