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Thursday, February 13, 2014

Between Life And Death And The After

Many years ago a blogger in the community died. She committed suicide. Everyone was shocked. I didn't know her well (which means it wasn't a blogger I visited often or interacted with often) but I knew her from clicking around and her blog and I always thought she has such wonderful ideas and designs.
She is gone and I can still see her photo in my mind. That was many years ago. So many bloggers who were close to her were shocked. They couldn't believe she didn't share with them her struggles.

Anyway I've not forgotten her.

I have a blogger friend that I know. We visit each other. She is from my country. I enjoyed reading her blog.
Her last post was in Christmas. I figured she just wanted to be with her family for awhile, so that's why she didn't return in January.
But by mid January, I'm missing her around the blog community. I'd pop in to see if she wrote anything and maybe my feeds weren't being updated. Still nothing.

So this week I went sleuthing. I notice some people on her facebook page saying 'rest in peace.'
I shook my head. They must be wrong. It cannot be!

But that explains why she isn't here. She is consistent and would have explained leaving.

I wrote a few other blogger friends to inquire about her.

I went online to research and I found that in truth Judy had passed.

It's hard. I didn't know her like you'd know someone, but I knew her like family online. She was the neighbor.

She is deceased.

She was so kind, thoughtful and positive. I've thought of even meeting up with her if I would ever get another trip to visit my country.

It's very sad and I know she was struggling with many things. I hope now she is at peace. At least I know she will be with her twin and brother again whom she loved so much. I just hope her mother can grieve well.

It is sad. I will miss her.

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Keep her family in your prayers.

Colette is a busy mom of 2 kids focusing solely on being a mom. She hails from the Caribbean and now balances the full life of being a SAHM and dabbling in odd jobs to help around the home. She enjoys sharing her memories, hopes, food, travel, entertainment, and product experiences on her blog. Please read my disclosure 
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24 comments :

  1. I was missing her online too, and emailed her a couple of times. I was hoping it wasn't bad news keeping her from blogging. I was sorry to hear that it was... Rest in Peace, Judy. She always seemed like such a really kind soul. My prayers have gone up for her family.

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  2. I am so sorry...
    We never really know what people are struggling with.

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  3. It makes my heart ache to think that people could possibly be in that much pain to take their lives. :( Peace to the family.

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    1. I hope that is not the case with Judy. I don't know how she died, but I didn't gather from the post that she was the one who took her own life.

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    2. No no no Liz. She didn't take her life. She was doing some tests at the hospital last I heard. Maybe it had to do with those complications!

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  4. Tears come to my eyes & my heart to know this child of God took her own life to be with the ones she loved & missed so desperately. She shared what she could of her sister for you know a part of her was gone when she spoke of her. Her precious nicnacs that she shared with us, the pretty little birds. I shared her meme on my own blog every Friday, and it was Get to know Judy, and ask her any question you wanted, and I did, but nothing leading to anything like this. So very sad, but we are sad for the lost of our dear friend, but happy for her gain of life ever lasting with her heart, her twin! Thank you Callie for sharing this news. I had no idea. HUGS & prayers to the family.

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    1. No no no Dolly. She didn't take her life. She was doing some tests at the hospital last I heard. Maybe it had to do with those complications!

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  5. This is so sad. I've noticed that she hasn't been visiting my blog with her kind words from a Twinless Twin. So many questions about this sweet woman. I'm so sorry to learn this.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com/2014/02/musical-monday-we-can-dance-hollywood.html

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  6. Collette, I am so very sorry for your loss of such a good friend. I did not have the privilege of knowing Judy, or visiting her blog. May she rest in peace.

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  7. Thanks for letting us know, Collette. Judy was always so nice and it was such a pleasure to get to know her just a wee bit through the blogging community. My prayers are with all those who loved her dearly. This is truly sad news. {{{HUGS]]]

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  8. I have seen the name around online. I am so sorry for her family. I am sure they miss her.

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  9. That is terribly sad. I was wondering where she had been - I never could have imagined this, though. Thanks for letting us know.

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  10. I had no idea ... I wondered last week why her blog wasn't updated. I thought the same, some time with her family. I'm feeling a great loss right now, so very sad. :(

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  11. So sad. I've went to her site a few times to make comments on the same post. She was one to always respond back on her own blog. Nothing! I wondered what had happened. So sad. I hope she wasn't in too much pain.

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  12. So sad. I, too, have visited her site several times but was not aware of this until now. I can't believe it...

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  13. I'm sorry to hear about Judy's passing, Collette. Hugs to you. May her soul rest in peace.

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  14. Oh, that's so sad. I was wondering about her silence, too. Thank you for posting.

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  15. So sad to hear this Judy always had kind words when visiting my blog I am shocked and so sad.

    RIP Judy

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  16. Thank you for letting us know this very sad news, Colette. I'd missed Judy visiting my blog and wondered what was wrong. RIP Judy xox

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  17. I've been checking her blog for WW, too - I always looked forward to her sweet comments. What very sad news. Thanks for sharing. *hugs and happy memory sparkles*

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  18. Thanks for posting this. Such sad news.

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  19. A true loving presence is with us no longer. I didn't know her well, but we exchanged pleasantries several times. May she be greeted at the pearly gates by her loved ones. My prayers go out to her mother and loved ones. Thank you for sharing the terribly sad news. Barbara @ www.allmylivesnow.com

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  20. I'll definitely be praying for her family. Bloggers have their circle of community that they check up on often and read about often in their blogs. It's sad when one of those bloggers leaves us.

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  21. Oh, Colette, what sad news. I knew I hadn't seen or heard anything from Judy for a while. I hadn't really thought to check on her. We will miss her! I am sure she is in a happy place now! I feel so terrible for her mother. Losing her children has to be one of the hardest things there is.

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I appreciate your thoughts - Colette

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