3 Lessons We All Can Learn From Sunny Bee!
I’ve learned a lot from writing the children’s story book Bee Helpful. However, I’ve learned even
more from reading it to my son. It has become to me a rich repository of meaningful life lessons
subtly weaved into the fabric of a heroic adventure story. In this article, I would like to share
three important lessons that we all could learn from Sunny Bee.!
In the Bee Helpful story, Sunny Bee is best friends with a beautiful golden sunﬂower named
Myah. While it is easy to see that Sunny is a bee and Myah is a ﬂower, it is easy to miss the
meaning there in.
What can we glean from their relationship? First of all Myah is of the plant
kingdom while Sunny is of the animal kingdom. Myah is female, Sunny is male. Myah is
stationary while Sunny is mobile. These two friends could not be more different but yet they are
the best of friends. The lesson here is understanding that we can be friends with anyone no
matter how different we are. It doesn’t matter if they are a plant, a dog, cat, bird, or different
gender, color, religion, culture, etc.!
If we can replace our judgements with compassion, most problems in our relationships and in
the world for that matter, would dissolve quickly. Somewhere along the way we picked up the
habit to judge each other, ourselves, and just about everything around us. When we judge
things it can make us feel more disconnected from the world we live in.
We can say that I am good and that person is bad and they deserve to have negative things happen to them. For example, we can see a homeless person and judge his whole life in just a few seconds;
concluding that he is a lazy bomb, drug addict, a con, and so on. This allow us to feel good
about our decision we’ve already made not to help this person or people like him. It allows us to
be disconnected and remain selﬁsh instead of compassionate and generous—to contract
instead of expand.
Do we really know the truth about a homeless person that we a few moments ago we did not
even know existed? Of course not. We don’t know that his father ran out on the family or that his
mother died of a drug overdose when he was 7. We don’t know that he was badly abused as
child in the various homes they put him in.
We don’t know the particulars of his circumstances that lead up to where he is now. Just because we heard on the evening news that some homeless people are fakes, doesn’t mean all of them are. Besides, is the nickel or quarter in your pocket really worth all the judging and analysis or your time? I don’t think so. That pocket change may be just enough to someone who can really use it. Also, it will help teach a message to them, you and me; that we are not alone in this world. That there is a least one person who cares about others.
Sunny Bee went on an extraordinary journey trying to help his friend. Being a good friend
includes being there for other people in both good times and bad times. As a friend we must
stand willing to lend our support on a moments notice. We don’t always need to go as far as
Sunny did in the story to help, many times being there for others is simply just giving them your full attention and actively listening.
This is called being present. Be fully present with a child, a pet, in the woods, with a co-worker and see how the experience feels to you and them. We all feel much better when we are valued and heard. Your gift of extraordinary attention will do much more than most can understand.
In this article, I’ve highlighted three lessons that are quite valuable for our children to be aware
of and practice.
Don’t be afraid to “bee friends” with people of different backgrounds, gender,
beliefs, pets, or even a tree.
Second, it is important to replace many of our judgements with compassion and be there for others. Lastly, when we have compassion it is much easier for us to “bee there” for others. If we have a problem or need help, it feels good when someone comes to our rescue like Sunny did for Myah. Take an opportunity to be there for someone or something and see how it makes them feel and how it makes you feel.
About the author:J.W. Edwards III was born in St. Louis, Missouri and spent the majority of his childhood there. Eventually he left St. Louis for engineering school and job opportunities. He has traveled across most the U.S. in search of a place to call home.
He currently resides in northern California with his wife and three boys and works full-time as a software engineer while writing stories for his youngest son in his spare time. J.W. Edwards is busy these days working on a variety of writing projects which includes the Sunny Bee Book Series.
Book number three, Bee Helpful, was the first one to be published. Books 1, 2, and 4 will follow soon in 2014.
Learn more about this series at www.sunnybeebooks.com.
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Colette is a busy mom of 2 kids focusing solely on being a mom. She hails from the Caribbean and now balances the full life of being a SAHM and dabbling in odd jobs to help around the home. She enjoys sharing her memories, hopes, food, travel, entertainment, and product experiences on her blog. Please read my disclosure