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Thursday, June 5, 2014

Make An Effort To Stay Positive

Make An Effort To Stay Positive - Words: Spoken And Unspoken Forces #Book Tour

It is important to understand that speaking positive and speaking life requires you to make an effort. We instinctively think of the negative first. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi discovered that when our mind is not engaged in something, it tends to drift randomly. All kinds of thoughts enter our idle mind, but surprisingly only the negative thoughts stick. This is because, “negative thoughts fixate attention with more stickiness than positive or neutral thoughts. We get caught in the worried or angry thought, and it doesn't pass by like a neutral thought might.” Therefore, thinking and in turn speaking positive requires an extra effort from our end whereas thinking and speaking negatively is something that most of us learn with much ease early in our childhood!

We have to fight and ward off those negative thoughts/emotions so that they don’t produce words.

While communicating with someone, try to be as positive as possible. When I say be positive, what I really mean is that try avoiding words which carry negative connotation. Instead, look for alternative words that could replace the negative words that you use most frequently. For instance, instead of viewing something as a “problem” you could instead tag it as a “situation.” Rather than saying it was a “bad” decision, say it was an “unwise” decision. See “faults” as “differences” and “mistakes” as “valuable lessons.” When these simple tips are used, they yield amazing results.
WordsBannerWORDS Cover Version 04_1400x2100Words: Spoken and Unspoken Forces provides the key to understanding the secret power of words and traces how this power is activated by drawing references from various authors and experts in psychology, philosophy, medicine, and semiotics. The author presents a theoretical model to understand why words affect individuals by suggesting that words color emotions, shape behaviors, and influence physiological functioning to create an overall impact (whether positive or negative).

Drawing upon several scientific studies, this book will help the reader understand why words are spoken and unspoken forces that have the potential to shape the future.

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anitaAnita Saleem holds an MS/MPhil in Clinical and Counseling Psychology. She was born and raised in Pakistan where she currently teaches Psychology to undergraduates at Forman Christian College. At the age of 25, she is a lecturer, an author and a researcher who best expresses herself through her writing. She frequently pens articles for local newspapers on culture, arts, faith, tolerance and relationships.

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26 comments :

  1. It's true - words really can pack a punch and some people need to think before they speak!

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    1. Thank you. I was just speaking to my mom about this in regards to how powerful our words are.

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  2. There really is power in words and how you say those words.. I am practicing this everyday to hone my skills.

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    1. Thank you.
      Very true.
      And gosh sometimes it's hard to shut your own self up to not say certain things. Amazing isn't it?

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  3. This looks fabulous! So much truth in these words.

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  4. Words can affect you more than you realize, especially since we are taught "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." All lies! lol

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    1. YES Emily!
      I made sure to dispell that lie with my kids as quickly as I could :)

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  5. I agree, sometimes an attitude can make all the difference.

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    1. I read that our attitude shows up before we do :)

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  6. You know, I stress to my kiddos all of the time the importance of not saying negative things. The older kids poke fun at me, and say my favorite 'be positive' messages back to me when they're being smarties, but it's okay by me because I know that means what I've said is sticking. :)

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    1. Exactly! As long as it becomes second nature so that it becomes automatic in their lives.

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  7. I agree with you about the positivity! It totally makes a difference.

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  8. This is so true. You are what you speak, so speak happy! Thanks for the info.

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  9. People often don't think before they speak. And sometimes words can be worse than a physical wound.

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    1. It usually is. You can heal from the physical, but the words get inside your memory and remain...

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  10. i know i always try and stop and think before i say something if i am annoyed.

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    1. Sometimes I try to.
      I don't think many like when I become silent :)

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  11. I totally agree with you, that is why I start my day praying and thanking God. Having the right mind and heart before the Lord will keep you going happy the whole day. Then my mouth is guarded with God's love instead of all negative emotions. There are days I fail to pray then i spit out negative words. Ugghh working on it daily.

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    1. Thank you Jade. I try to pray the minute my eyes open, sometimes I even fall back asleep :) But talking with God and asking for his aid throughout the day is very helpful. Some days are most awful and I wonder how much more damaging it would be if I didn't pray.

      Thank you for sharing.

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  12. Sometimes negative connotation can be assumed when words aren't used at all :)

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    1. Absolutely true!
      I have seen it many times when I become silent.

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  13. Being positive is the best way to live, even when it's hard. Negative words can be really destructive.

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    1. Even when it's hard! Absolutely agree with you.

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I appreciate your thoughts - Colette

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