Make An Effort To Stay Positive - Words: Spoken And Unspoken Forces #Book Tour
It is important to understand that speaking positive and speaking life requires you to make an effort. We instinctively think of the negative first. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi discovered that when our mind is not engaged in something, it tends to drift randomly. All kinds of thoughts enter our idle mind, but surprisingly only the negative thoughts stick. This is because, “negative thoughts fixate attention with more stickiness than positive or neutral thoughts. We get caught in the worried or angry thought, and it doesn't pass by like a neutral thought might.” Therefore, thinking and in turn speaking positive requires an extra effort from our end whereas thinking and speaking negatively is something that most of us learn with much ease early in our childhood!
We have to fight and ward off those negative thoughts/emotions so that they don’t produce words.
While communicating with someone, try to be as positive as possible. When I say be positive, what I really mean is that try avoiding words which carry negative connotation. Instead, look for alternative words that could replace the negative words that you use most frequently. For instance, instead of viewing something as a “problem” you could instead tag it as a “situation.” Rather than saying it was a “bad” decision, say it was an “unwise” decision. See “faults” as “differences” and “mistakes” as “valuable lessons.” When these simple tips are used, they yield amazing results.
Words: Spoken and Unspoken Forces provides the key to understanding the secret power of words and traces how this power is activated by drawing references from various authors and experts in psychology, philosophy, medicine, and semiotics. The author presents a theoretical model to understand why words affect individuals by suggesting that words color emotions, shape behaviors, and influence physiological functioning to create an overall impact (whether positive or negative).
Drawing upon several scientific studies, this book will help the reader understand why words are spoken and unspoken forces that have the potential to shape the future.
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It's true - words really can pack a punch and some people need to think before they speak!
ReplyDeleteThank you. I was just speaking to my mom about this in regards to how powerful our words are.
DeleteThere really is power in words and how you say those words.. I am practicing this everyday to hone my skills.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteVery true.
And gosh sometimes it's hard to shut your own self up to not say certain things. Amazing isn't it?
This looks fabulous! So much truth in these words.
ReplyDeleteThank you Debra :)
DeleteWords can affect you more than you realize, especially since we are taught "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." All lies! lol
ReplyDeleteYES Emily!
DeleteI made sure to dispell that lie with my kids as quickly as I could :)
I agree, sometimes an attitude can make all the difference.
ReplyDeleteI read that our attitude shows up before we do :)
DeleteYou know, I stress to my kiddos all of the time the importance of not saying negative things. The older kids poke fun at me, and say my favorite 'be positive' messages back to me when they're being smarties, but it's okay by me because I know that means what I've said is sticking. :)
ReplyDeleteExactly! As long as it becomes second nature so that it becomes automatic in their lives.
DeleteI agree with you about the positivity! It totally makes a difference.
ReplyDeleteThank you Liz.
DeleteThis is so true. You are what you speak, so speak happy! Thanks for the info.
ReplyDeleteOur words become deeds right..
DeletePeople often don't think before they speak. And sometimes words can be worse than a physical wound.
ReplyDeleteIt usually is. You can heal from the physical, but the words get inside your memory and remain...
Deletei know i always try and stop and think before i say something if i am annoyed.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I try to.
DeleteI don't think many like when I become silent :)
I totally agree with you, that is why I start my day praying and thanking God. Having the right mind and heart before the Lord will keep you going happy the whole day. Then my mouth is guarded with God's love instead of all negative emotions. There are days I fail to pray then i spit out negative words. Ugghh working on it daily.
ReplyDeleteThank you Jade. I try to pray the minute my eyes open, sometimes I even fall back asleep :) But talking with God and asking for his aid throughout the day is very helpful. Some days are most awful and I wonder how much more damaging it would be if I didn't pray.
DeleteThank you for sharing.
Sometimes negative connotation can be assumed when words aren't used at all :)
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely true!
DeleteI have seen it many times when I become silent.
Being positive is the best way to live, even when it's hard. Negative words can be really destructive.
ReplyDeleteEven when it's hard! Absolutely agree with you.
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